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No Rules or “Shoulds”

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There is no one specific way to act in any potential given moment. There are no “rules” to how we have to be, even though we are taught that there are.

Religion and society impose rules on us to keep us in line. And maybe there was a place for that at one point. But we are waking up to a new truth now.

When more and more layers of the “me/ego” are recognized and allowed to fall away, a deeper knowing starts to emerge.

When we begin to align with this knowing, correct action is revealed moment to moment.

And I don’t mean not thinking at all, I mean not believing the “me/ego.” Ignoring the* “me/ego” that thinks its in control of the universe.

Allowing the moment to reveal what is to be done, when whatever appears in the now , is the only way that works every time.

This “in-the-moment” inspired action is always kind compassionate and loving. But sometimes when the circumstance call for it, the response may appear unkind, harsh, or bad to some…and these people can have their opinions and that is fine too.

But I trust this process and it makes things very simple in regards to what I “should” or “shouldn’t” be doing or how I “should” or “shouldn’t” be acting.

Our words actions and behaviors can piss people off either way, so might as well go the path of least resistance.

The “me/ego” will not agree with this view because it thinks life will tumble out of control…but its a lie.

Life has been doing it ALL all along anyway…not the “me/ego.”

~beliefpatrol~

Like a Fish In Water

Clownfish and anemoneIn a previous post I wrote about a new something that is happening where it seems like I am looking through a camera lens and the world of forms is arising on that screen.

This post I have some new phenomena to report that is equally fascinating and strange.

I was doing nothing in particular the other day, when the sense of ME seemed to be recognized in a new, totally familiar way.

I know, the term ‘new’ and the word ‘familiar’ seem to contradict each other ,but that is the best way I can describe the experience of it.

There was a recognition of ME in a totally new and exciting fashion, while simultaneously feeling very familiar.

Familiar in a way that it was clearly seen that the ME has always been here my entire life.  But also new, in a way that even though I have always been here, there was a fresh recognition of it.

The familiarity of it seemed so obvious.   There was a silent transmission that sort said: “Well yeah…of course I have always been here.  Who do you think sees and hears and feels and tastes?”

But the fresh “new” recognition was exciting and liberating too.  The character of mind-me was still functioning like normal, but the angst and seeking and striving was no longer present.  My concern for the character and what it wants and thinks it needs, and strives for , and on and on etc etc etc, was no longer there.

I know it has been said before, but the fish in water analogy seems to be a fitting metaphor here.

If a fish were to notice water for the first time in their life, it would be totally amazed while also recognizing that the water had always been there.

For the fish, normally the water is overlooked.  The attention is focused on what arises in the water..including other aquatic life, rocks, smells, sensations, sounds and all the rest.

I have heard this metaphor many times before, but the mind-me always made it out to be some miraculous state that only enlightened gurus are entitled to experience…but in actuality it is so simple and ordinary, I can see why it goes unnoticed.


Now that I made a big deal out of this ‘Fish in Water’ thing, I have to be careful the mind-me does not hijack what happened and make it into a personal experience.  

Until this ME thing is firmly established, all the previous practices relating to the “me” still need to be implemented continually.  Invite the ‘Me’ Thoughts to the Presence and DIEMORE are two posts that talk a little about this practice. 

Even writing and talking about the ‘Fish in Water’ event seems to make the reality of it fade away.

Dealing with Fear Thoughts and the Critical Voice

This is a great video I just found where Benjamin Smythe talks about one way to approach the inner voice of “me” that thinks it’s in charge of everything.



0:33What would happen if you loved that voice?”

1:24  “And you even do this radical thing where you open your heart to it.”

2:29 “To hear the fear, and to hear the anger, and to hear the judgement, and to hear the criticism.  And to hear it coming all from the very same source, this really scared separate me…”

3:32 “It’s mad because we sacrifice for love and approval which never actually comes from others.”

4:33 “So have the courage it takes to love something that is just totally terrified.”

5:33 “This voice is developed by culture, it’s developed by lying to yourself.”

6:10 “And if you can love that rage and that anger, it will subside and that voice will become a comedian.”

6:40 “And at first it might be hard to laugh, but over time it’s like you have a best friend with you and all they do is make you laugh…Pretending to be in charge.”

7:55 (The voice) “is totally terrified because it believes it is separate from everything.”

8:50 “You can absolutely do it, it just requires opening your heart to the last person you could imagine opening your heart to.”


Me – Not our natural inclination, but oh so powerful!

Me – And we can apply this to all voices internal and external that try to get the reactionary self activated 🙂

Obtain Silence Through Curiosity

How does it happen?

Place-of-silenceTrying to obtain silence or awareness can be a tricky endeavor.

Anytime there is a “me” there trying to be aware or trying to be silent, awareness and silence will be veiled. Anytime there is any kind of agenda for the “me,”  the “me” is more than happy to jump into the conversation and offer it’s skilled advice or alternate solutions.

The key is to have the “me”  quiet down just enough so the actuality of silence is realized.

There are a zillion and one techniques teachers suggest to help us quiet the mind, and thus recognize the awareness that we are.

One tip you hear many teachers recommend is to “get curious” about what is happening when negative feelings or emotions arise.  They say by being curious, there is a subtle something happening that allows the feelings and sensations to just be as they are.  And when we are just being, the “me” is silent.

But when I tell myself to be curious, it somehow activates the mind too much.  Like I’m telling or commanding myself to ‘do’ something which then triggers “me” to respond or resist to the suggestion.

What seems to be helpful to me is when a feeling or a sensation appears, instead of telling myself to be curious,  I simply ask “how does this _________happen?

“How does this tiredness happen?”

“How does this sadness happen?”

“How does this anger happen?”

“How does this tingly feeling in my stomach happen?”

When I ask this way, I do not get verbal responses. When I ask this way I get silent feedback.  Then I am able to be more aware of what is happening instead of losing myself in mental dialogue.

This method also seems more of an ‘in-the-moment’ activity that has no secret agenda for the benefit of the “me.”

And when there is no agenda for the “me”, I do not find myself fifteen minutes later, lost in mental commentary 🙂

Benjamin Smythe – The Cause of Suffering

1:23  “A lot of suffering is mental narration.  We all deal with physical pain the best we can…mental narration is the rest of it.

‘How am I telling the story about whats going on here?’

And in some ways, not to over-simplify it,  but that just comes down to memory.

The one thing I can’t remember is THIS.”

Benjamin Smythe – How Do I Not Identify With Thoughts

1:11 “Don’t think too hard, just look for the thinker.”

’nuff said…

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